• Some Saturday, get up super-early and get something (that’s been bugging you) done.
• Start date night in the afternoon—and go to bed early. : )
• Visit a new place of worship—wherever the spirit may move you.
• Stuck in the family cabin customs? Trade places with another family with a place.
• Break with holiday tradition: Serve salmon at Thanksgiving; hand out healthy snacks at Halloween; give gifts to charity at Christmas.
• If your mornings are harried, prep all you can the night before.
• On Super Bowl Sunday, host your own game day—bingo, ping-pong, Monopoly.
• Give you kids chits; say “Okay” sometimes when they say, “But I don’t wanna!?!”
• Skip the grocery run and support the farmer’s market, ethnic shops and local co-op.
• If you have assigned chores in your house, reverse roles for a change of pace. (You may appreciate what the others do—and be grateful to get your same-old same-old back!)
• Take a mental health day…when you feel great!

In our last BreakAway BreakThrough post, we went back to school. Awwww!?! Now that THAT routine is running as smoothly as a champion football team, here are some ways to escape the grind and embrace fall’s groove.

• Watch the waterfowl; stroll along a lake and listen to the loons and friends as they make their way south (lucky ducks!).
• Don’t just jump in the leaves, create a comfy pile and chill there a while.
• On a sunny day when color is peaking, drop everything and ride right through it.
• Head to the farmer’s market and marvel at the bounty; maybe make and freeze up a big batch of red sauce so you can taste the sunshine in tomatoes and peppers all winter.
• Catch a falling leaf, maple-tree helicopter, or star.
• Walk in the woods—alone or with a favorite friend or pet—without your favorite digital devices.
• Host a big, fat bonfire and roast savory sausages and stuff on sticks.
• Let the face find you and carve life into some pumpkins.
• Forgot to make your summer BreakAway? It’s NEVER too late: Take a fall vacation or even a staycation.
• When Indian summer hits, dig out the shorts and soak up some sun—since it may be many months before that sweet, sweaty feeling arises again.
• Cold coming? Do your Emergency Coziness Preparations by stocking up on firewood, candles and cognac (or hot chocolate).

But autumn is also a good time to get back to some life goals and projects.  So if you’re raising children, don’t just phone in fall.  Harvest the opportunities and potential.  This week’s BreakAway BreakThrough offers some suggestions.

 

BABT9:  Back to School Basics … 11 Ways to Make Fall Functional & Fun

 

• Allow some weeknights to be NOT routine.  Have friends over, play a game, see a movie.  
• Teach useful life skills like putting out clothes the night before, making the bed in the morning, and packing a healthy lunch. 
• Want to paint, pound, write?  Follow your offspring back to class yourself. 
• Be the solution:  Volunteer at your kid’s school or wherever more heads are needed. 
• Make homework a priority—not a punishment—and help out.  (You may relearn many things you have forgotten!) 
• Schedule BreakAways to avoid a gruesome grind; plan vacations and breaks and use them as carrots and rewards. 
• If your children have activities, be a supportive parent—but try not to let youth orchestra or hockey become too penalizing. 
• Talk about the last and next summers; embrace the seasonal differences and plan cool stuff as an antidote to the school-year schedule.
• Remember that book learning is only part of the experience; take a daily interest in social, emotional, physical and spiritual development. 
• Relax:  Let every day have some down time and join in on the goofing off and loosening up. 
• For God’s sake, say a prayer at bedtime and preach good sleep. 
• Keep education in perspective:  Your kids can thrive even if they don’t become valedictorian or get a Div-1 scholarship.  (Just like you!) 

 

 

• Find nostalgia.  Tonight, the kids will experience their first drive-in movie.
• Rest.  For just one day, I’ll mostly sit on the dock, from sunrise to sunset. 
• Read.  For classic enlightenment, it’s Fitzgerald’s “This Side of Paradise.”  For modern motivation, I’ll ponder Daniel Pink’s “A Whole New Mind.”
• Play games.  The Boy loves bocce and now knows cribbage; even the Girl finds “Apples to Apples” appealing. 
• Get wet.  Swim every day; make heroic throws and catches with a tennis ball. 
• Celebrate tradition.  Dare to ride the old wooden roller coaster at 120-year old Arnolds Amusement Park. 
• Go local.  I’ll chat up fellow Boji brethren at Harold’s Fisherman’s Wharf, not Godfather’s. 
• Love rain.  It keeps trees green and lakes blue—and offers the chance to do puzzles, play guitar and take naps. 
• Try something new.  Okay, I’ll finally climb aboard a Jet-Ski…and likely love it! 
• Embrace family.  All my living relatives will visit—and I’ll grill up a feast. 
• Feel music.  I’ll soak up legends like torch-songstress Marilyn Maye, then hit the bars where the cover bands crank it up. 

 

My 12-year old is gone at camp for 10 days.  Fortunately, this is Year 5.  So I not only find it easier each year, I probably enjoy it more.  After all, tweenie-kids these days:  They’ve already got SOs, 24/7 text-mania, hectic social (and school and sports) lives, and most of the answers. 

 

So in some ways, my role as a dad becomes more extraneous by the minute.  Yet it’s also the most important “work” in my life—while the job lasts—so I fight for family time, music practice, manners lessons, and a real relationship.  But do I miss those challenges when I get a 10-day reprieve?  Not so much.  I mean, sometimes a guy needs a break!

 

No doubt he does too.  Though he many not know it, campfire silliness and learning to canoe and making new friends trump texting and pool-play at the end of the day—and your life. 

 

A few decades later, I can definitely say that the most memorable experiences of my childhood included that three-week camp at the ranch.  The summer weeks that I stayed on at my grandparents’ farm.  The carefree independence of teen summer itself—when a bike and some friends was ALL you needed. 

 

I’ve been scratching itchy feet and searching for free will ever since—now blessed to take a lengthy Sabbatical now and then.  I learned how from summer vacations. 

 

So the best lesson of summer camp may be for a kid to learn to take a break…get away.  And yes, that includes from the parents. 

 

Sometimes music gets a bad rap these days.  “Songs” are all attitude and chatter, and often devoid of actual singing.  “Autotune” turns voices into robots.  Mash-ups and electonica replace real instruments.  And kids skip through their playlist with the attention span of a fly.  Meanwhile, sound quality gets abused—condensed and often replayed through dime-sized speakers. 

 

Still, music is a big blessing—and can provide a magical BreakAway from the cacophony of routine monotony.  A daily course of music—real music, with intent listening—nourishes like a smoothie for the soul.  Or, as Maude (of movie “Harold and Maude”) says, “Music is the language of the stars!” 

 

BABT6:  Make Time for Music … 11 ways to plug in, tune in, and amp it up

• Got an instrument?  Pick it up and start pickin’ and grinnin’. 
• Go through your music collection and play stuff you’ve been neglecting for a while. 
• When there’s a good tune on the car radio, don’t get out til it’s over. 
• Support local, live performers whenever you can sneak away. 
• Insist that your children learn to read and play music—no matter how unharmonious the occasional tussle. 
• Always throw (at least) a buck in a busker’s bucket. 
• Turn off all other media and annoyances, and let yourself really listen. 
• Sing!  It’s as natural as eating, drinking, and dancing—and it feels good in your body. 
• Weather permitting, head out to hear outdoor live music early and often. 
• Invest in a dang good sound system; make one room (or more) a sunny, sonic sanctuary. 
• Do like John Cage and sense the earthy music of the train, cricket, wind, and waves. 

Is music one of your ways to escape–or get closer to what matters to you?  Leave a comment please!

 

• Try your luck at one of today’s fastest-growing games:  Frizbee golf. 
• Walk the dog—or someone else’s—and make a puppy happy.
• Rent something that floats and ride upstream:  canoe, kayak or sailboat. 
• Tune up your old bike and take a spin on your neighborhood bike trails.
• Get up and go bowling in your spare time.   
• Take a stroll to smell some roses.  Doesn’t really matter where you’re going.
• Visit a batting-machine cage and take a swing at hitting. 
• Come into the cold with skiing or show-shoeing. 
• Tennis, anyone?
• This one goes well with beer:  Cornholing (though some people call it bean bag toss). 
• Whether alone or at the disco, dance (as the saying goes) like nobody’s watching. 

 Do you have any favorite moves–or BreakThrough tips to share?  Leave a comment please!

 

 

• Hook up with old college, fishing, or childhood chums. 
• Bum the use of an acquaintance’s wilderness cabin; chop wood for your rent. 
• Volunteer for Habitat, a church group, or wherever you’re needed. 
• Visit a cool college town when school is not in session. 
• Drive blue highways till you spot a funky hotel you like. 
• Send the family away—and have a “staycation” by yourself at home. 
• Go pay respects to an aging family member or old friend. 
• Pay a pilgrimage to a memorable place from your youth. 
• Try a yoga, meditation, or religious retreat.
• Hang out in a posh resort during a shoulder season—when they’re slow and cheap. 
• Board a bus, boat, or train to somewhere you’ve never traveled (and enjoy the ride). 

Do you have any favorite itineraries or destinations–or BreakThrough tips to share?  Leave a comment please!