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UnSummit Unplugged Incites No Riot

Posted on: Sunday, October 11th, 2009
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At the impressive UnSummit unconference Saturday, I hosted a session called “You: Unplugged” for a roomful of truly screen-centric souls. I was prepared to speak heresy and spark controversy. Imagine my surprise when, instead, they turned out to be moderate and mellow—with a good sense of concern and humor about their choices.

This lovely blogpost by UnSummit unorganizer Meg Canada tells all about it. (Thanks, Meg!)
  • A 12-pack of questions
Though the session was largely unscripted, I had compiled a 12-pack of questions that we would dip into when I (or a participant) wanted to move on. (This kept the conversation ‘flowing’—and made sure any windbags couldn’t take over!) In a clever twist, I put the questions in an empty (unfortunately) 12-pack carton of Twin Cities’ beloved Summit beer.
As if that weren’t enough, when it was time to change the topic, I would make my cell phone ring—in homage to the intrusive nature of digital devices and nonstop connectivity.
  • Hey, where’s the controversy?
Frankly, teeing up this provocative topic with those techno-brainiacs had me a bit fearful. What if my less-is-more, silence-is-golden message falls on deaf ears? Will I feel dumb? Am I blind to the obvious benefits these folks believe they receive from online living? Even the UnSummit’s founder and digi-guru, Don Ball (of Polymer Studios in Minneapolis) sent me this message the day before the big event…
I’m hoping you inspire a digital riot. But instead of torches and pitchforks, they’ll have glowing iPhones.”
Well, no phones were thrown. And they told the stories… so I rarely had to. Good, thoughtful stuff, too, like…
  • One attendee confessed to the angst that lasts about 24 hours or so when he visits the family cabin in a brown-out zone way up north. After withdrawal, though, he finds books, nature and family perfectly engaging and even forget that he’s unplugged.
  • Speaking of family and vacations…a handful admitted to taking their digitalia to family gatherings so they have an excuse to escape. Cute!
  • Several claimed still to be avid book readers; none had yet found a kinship with Kindle.
  • Most agreed that creating some unplugged times and zones was a good (if sometimes challenging) idea—especially those with children.
  • They think the mania of Facebook and Twitter probably are trends, and though they’ll stick around in some reduced form, will likely go the way of the Pet Rock in the next few years.
  • Most agreed it is bad manners to ruin a good (real-life) social conversation about something unknown by pulling out your iPhone and obtaining the answer(s).
  • There seemed to be some consensus that social media IS viably social. I may beg to differ; “social media” is, to me, an oxymoron. When compared to face-to-face, Facebook-to-Facebook “socializing” is fragmented, curt, one-sided and passive-aggressive. I mean, where’s the body language? Laughter? Love?
But I argued not. After all, they may be right.
  • But enough about SM …let’s talk BreakAways!
Joy, oh rapture—some of them wanted to short-out the unplugging discussion and confab about BreakAways:
How do you do it? Do you unplug when traveling? Do you use GPS when in a new place? Don’t you get lost? Do you reply to comments on your blog?
I was all too happy, of course, to take a detour into the Sabbatical alley—and did preach the necessity of spending less screen time when on a dreamy trip. I mean, how can you see Paris if you’re eyes are stuck on a screen? Yet I do confess that writing and taking pictures (and posting them online) makes me more attentive and curious as a traveler—so long as I don’t get carried away. As for getting lost, heck yes! That’s often the point. In Venice, for instance, my best memories are of stumbling upon bars, churches and piazzas without help from a guidebook or GPS.
  • All is not lost
The average teenager sends 1,700 texts a month now. Perhaps my audience does too, though none were that young. I’m ready to rumble an audience someday that is addicted or at risk. But as for my friends at UnSummit, they know what they’re doing—and they’re the early adopters intrepidly leading us into the future, whatever that may look like.
I also attended several other UnSummit sessions. Met many savvy, fun people (including a Facebook friend whose face I’d never seen in the flesh). And learned lots.
  • Biggest takeaway? At the end of the day, these thoughtful technophiles probably have more to teach me than I have to teach them.

BABT11: Routine Breakers

Posted on: Friday, October 9th, 2009
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As we continue to delve deeper into the seasonal duties of fall, we might want to make sure we don’t fall too far! Routine can be great; it’s how things get done. But ruts are what happen when routines make us feel stuck. It takes little—and can cost little too—to shake and freshen things up a bit. If you need some ideas, this week’s BreakAway BreakThrough (BABT) offers a few…
BABT11: 11 Ways to BreakAway from Routines & Ruts
  • Some Saturday, get up super-early and get something (that’s been bugging you) done.
  • Start date night in the afternoon—and go to bed early. : )
  • Visit a new place of worship—wherever the spirit may move you.
  • Stuck in the family cabin customs? Trade places with another family with a place.
  • Break with holiday tradition: Serve salmon at Thanksgiving; hand out healthy snacks at Halloween; give gifts to charity at Christmas.
  • If your mornings are harried, prep all you can the night before.
  • On Super Bowl Sunday, host your own game day—bingo, ping-pong, Monopoly.
  • Give you kids chits; say “Okay” sometimes when they say, “But I don’t wanna!?!”
  • Skip the grocery run and support the farmer’s market, ethnic shops and local co-op.
  • If you have assigned chores in your house, reverse roles for a change of pace. (You may appreciate what the others do—and be grateful to get your same-old same-old back!)
  • Take a mental health day…when you feel great!

Feeling disconnected? Text your kids.

Posted on: Tuesday, October 6th, 2009
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It drives me wacko sometimes—being surrounded by people who choose to tap at their little screen rather than engage in the world (and people!) around them. But this article asserts the upside: communication, especially with teens. After all, getting your kids to connect is a timeless challenge. So we need every tool we can muster.

Psychologist Thomas W. Whelan, author of “Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13-18 Year Olds,” offers this practical advice about becoming one with your kids via textology…

Instead of seeing the whole text thing as an enemy, see it as an ally.”

My philosophy is, `Stay in touch.’ E-mail, cell phone or text — it makes no difference to me”

One way to strengthen your relationship is to let the kids show you how to do it.”

As for me, unplugging—or at least setting some parameters and periods that are tech-lite and human/nature heavy—remains a worthwhile approach too. But as the people (of all ages) in MY life text ME more and more and I contemplate staying close with my kids as they mature, adapting will also be worthwhile.

And I must admit, watching one Mom get all giddy when she received a text from her daughter who had just bowled her first strike, well, that was pretty sweet and made us all LOL.

BreakAwayGuy to Appear at Mpls UnSummit

Posted on: Thursday, October 1st, 2009
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When hundreds of techno geeks and tweeting freaks gather on October 10 to discuss social media (live and virtually), I will take the stage to preach the gospel of unplugging.


The event is called UnSummit, and this impressive gang is leading the rest of us into the future, for better or worse. I’m excited to lead a controversial discussion—and shall wear a helmet!—when I dare to ask…

Are you “connected” 24/7? Do you sleep with your digitalia?  Does anything else turn you on? Does your commitment to SM compromise your relationships IRL?

Can you even envision YOU without IT?

Join Kirk Horsted, purveyor of radical ideas like escaping and unplugging to discuss (or is it debate?) the value of constant connectivity, hyper social media, brazen self-disclosure and overall all-at-onceness.  Maybe—just maybe—we’ll also shoot the breeze about silence, Sabbaticals and the art of Being Here Now.

For many of us, our love/hate relationship with digital tools and toys makes marriage look uncomplicated in comparison. On one hand, social media is cool, immediate and amusing. On the other hand, the sudden ubiquity of screen living can be creepy, anti-social (ironically) and addictive.
The UnSummit sessions are less about making a presentation, and more about facilitating a spirited conversation. With that in mind, I am prepared to listen more than lecture—and come home prepared to ponder (and perhaps write about) what I learn.
The event is “sold out” but you can no doubt catch Tweetfeeds if you are interested.  And apparently they’ll be posting all videos of the sessions on the UnSummit website at some point.

Sabbatical Risks and Rewards…

Posted on: Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
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If I have this right, Leon Rettler is a blogger, Ph.D. candidate and management consultant. Sabbaticals have made the list of his many interests, and this article provides a fine overview of the trend, risks and rewards. It’s worth a read.
Highlights include…
This stirring quote by Stefan Sagmeister, a graphic-design guru whose promotion of sabbaticals is getting a lot of link love–and even a speech at TED
I did my best thinking when not under pressure…. I had all sorts of fears that we would lose clients, be forgotten or have to start from scratch. And none of these fears came true. ….it is a simple time-planning event. I put the plan in the agenda, work out the finances and tell the clients.”
Believe it or not, Einstein began to develop his breakthrough theory of relativity not while slaving away in the lab—but rather, while on Sabbatical.
Since the risk to your career is real, try to tie (some of) your BreakAway experience to your work, rather than just fly off to revel in vain travel.

BABT10: Breaking Into Fall

Posted on: Tuesday, September 29th, 2009
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In our last BreakAway BreakThrough post, we went back to school. Awwww!?! Now that THAT routine is running as smoothly as a champion football team, here are some ways to escape the grind and embrace fall’s groove.

BABT10 … 11 Ways to Make Autumn Almost Awesome

  • Watch the waterfowl; stroll along a lake and listen to the loons and friends as they make their way south (lucky ducks!).
  • Don’t just jump in the leaves, create a comfy pile and chill there a while.
  • On a sunny day when color is peaking, drop everything and ride right through it.
  • Head to the farmer’s market and marvel at the bounty; maybe make and freeze up a big batch of red sauce so you can taste the sunshine in tomatoes and peppers all winter.
  • Catch a falling leaf, maple-tree helicopter, or star.
  • Walk in the woods—alone or with a favorite friend or pet—without your favorite digital devices.
  • Host a big, fat bonfire and roast savory sausages and stuff on sticks.
  • Let the face find you and carve life into some pumpkins.
  • Forgot to make your summer BreakAway? It’s NEVER too late: Take a fall vacation or even a staycation.
  • When Indian summer hits, dig out the shorts and soak up some sun—since it may be many months before that sweet, sweaty feeling arises again.
  • Cold coming? Do your Emergency Coziness Preparations by stocking up on firewood, candles and cognac (or hot chocolate).

Survey Sez: Home & Retirement Values Look Bleak

Posted on: Saturday, September 26th, 2009
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This darn recession shows little sign of mellowing. Oh sure, the economic indicators and trading markets look better. But without the infusion of massive (borrowed) cash courtesy of Uncle Sam, we’d still be sinking. Just ask the Average American—who volunteered this depressing assessment of their major holdings…

  • 25 percentage of Americans who owe more on their mortgage than their home is worth
  • 70 percentage of Americans who aren’t sure they’ll save enough for retirement
Is there a silver lining here? Possibly, but remember that silver isn’t worth much compared to America’s gold-standard lifestyle. Perhaps the best hope is that the cycle has to end someday. And then home prices will again start rising, mortgages will seem more worthwhile, and retirement accounts will be both higher in value and priority.

Coupon Clipping Makes a Comeback

Posted on: Friday, September 25th, 2009
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Thanks to the miserable economy, coupons — like board games and family dinners — have made a comeback.  Who’da thunk it?  Coupon clipping peaked in 1992 and then nearly died off.  But usage rose 23% in the first half of this year and could nearly double next year. 
 
This recent NYT story cites these interesting trends…
 
  • The affluent led the rally; households earning more than $70,000 are the top users
  • Printable website coupon usage is skyrocketing, thanks to sites like redplum.com and coupons.com
  • In tough economic times, people like the feeling that they’re doing something to survive and thrive—rather than just getting all depressed and whiny
 
Great, but don’t forget to save for sunny days…
 
If consumers also practiced such discipline and diligent pennypinching when times were good, perhaps they could enjoy more vacations, weekend escapes and even three-month BreakAways.  But with any luck, these good habits can last even when the wealth effect makes folks feel flush again.  We can only hope…
 

Survey Sez: We’re Smothered With Stuff

Posted on: Saturday, September 19th, 2009
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The suffering economy may be leading people to couponing and cocooning, but we’re still suffocating in stuff.  Gosh, when I recently took some high-quality clothes to a local consignment store, they rejected almost all of it.  “We just can’t handle any more inventory; we’re stuffed!” the manager told me. 
 
If the stuff surrounding you seems to be growing like a fungus, you’re not alone, as this Zogby Interactive survey suggests: 
 
  • 22 Percentage of U.S. adults who have given away more than 10% of their belongings because they were no longer needed
  • 17 Percentage who said they gave things away in the past year because they have too much 
  • 28 Percentage who said they had given away more of their belongings in the past year than they had previously
 
Let’s face it:  We’re not addicted to love (as the song says), we’re addicted to stuff!  And shopping!  No doubt there are cultural reasons (the buy-buy messages never stop, and shopping is social), and probably some psychological ones (retail “therapy” and oh, the joy of the purchase!). 
 
Nonetheless, imagine how much more money we’d have if we could limit our addiction.  And with that extra money, we could slow down, buy some time and give ourselves a BreakAway. 
 
After all—as we say on this website over and over—the best investment you can make is in good memories.  Because nothing appreciates more over time. 
 
No, not even your stuff. 

BA Impetus 1: You Done Somebody Wrong (Right, Kanye?)

Posted on: Tuesday, September 15th, 2009
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How many reasons are there to take a BreakAway?  With this new series, let’s find out, one by one.  For Kanye West, a spontaneous inspiration arose when he rudely interrupted Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech during the MTV Awards to diss her and declare Beyonce more worthy.  Whatever…but now he needs a little Shame Sabbatical. 
 
Work, Work, Work
 
Poor guy.  Kanye works so hard he seems to forget to take time to practice good manners.  As he reflects on the Jay Leno Show, he’ll use this blunder to unplug the fame machine, learn from his mistakes and, well, grow up.  According to the man himself:
So many celebrities, they never take the time off.  I’ve never taken the time off to really — you know, just music after music and tour after tour. I’m just ashamed that my hurt caused someone else’s hurt. My dream of what awards shows are supposed to be, ’cause, and I don’t try to justify it because I was just in the wrong. That’s period. But I need to, after this, take some time off and just analyze how I’m going to make it through the rest of this life, how I’m going to improve.”
 
President Obama Calls Kanye a “Jackass”
 
One good gaffe deserves another, eh?  President Obama—off the record—responded to Kanye’s actions by calling him “a jackass.”  The comment was not intended for public dissemination.  But of course, we all know that in this digital day and age, no secret is sacred.  Especially when you’re the most powerful person on the planet. 
 
The President will learn that soon enough (or he, too, may need a Sabbatical!).  Meanwhile, we hope Kanye has a great break—really—and that others singing the done-somebody-wrong blues will consider taking time off to apologize, ponder and heal.